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How do I talk to my spouse about the possibility of depression?

Wonderful post about helping a depressed spouse. This blog is devoted to those supporting a depressed loved one. Check them out!

Depression's Collateral Damage

Getting your spouse to discuss the possible presence of depression is no small feat. Many times when Bern and I have led groups or offered presentations, the most difficult question to tackle is “How do I get my husband to even hear me?” And yes, it is almost always a woman asking about her husband, rather than the other way around.

This past week when we met with the support group we lead, a new friend joined us. And she asked the big question. She was considering the fact that her husband was self-medicating with alcohol, that fact that he has a family history of bipolar disorder, the fact that his sleep regimen is a complete wreck…over all, she was adding two and two and coming up with a “four” that made her feel very concerned. Combine all this with the fact that her husband refuses to see any kind…

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A Death So Violent

This is who you leave behind when you commit suicide. My heart goes out to all those who are grieving tonight. Hang in there, the pain WILL ease in time.

Emerging From Desolation

You who could not stand to hurt the smallest of creatures, how could you end your life so violently?  You who knew that I could not stand to see an injured animal, how could you leave me to find my heart and soul in a pool of blood?  Oh my God!  Please just don’t let this be real, or please let me escape the images and the pain.

Yet I know in my heart that in your darkest hour that morning, you did not wish to hurt me.  I just have to believe this.  Today I don’t see any way to keep living, but I must because of our son.  How I would love to sleep forever and let the pain go.

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C J TALKS ABOUT: Grief — To Ignore Is To Deny, So What?

From a wonderful new blog I have just discovered, written by someone with great insight into life and especially death. Please check out the blog of a mortuary mouse.

A View From Under The Prep-Room Table: A Mouse's True Stories of Life In A Mortuary

<continued from “Grief: WHAT is it? WHY is it?”>

My last post discussed the concept of grief. Since humans form attachments to other humans, loss then becomes an issue of psychosocial proportions.

Grief can be defined as the emotional reaction to a loss.

Mourning can be described as the process of adaptation or adjustmentto the loss.

It is necessary to point the difference out between those words, which are often used interchangeably.

They are related but not synonymous.

In the last post, I talked about grief as being a ‘necessary evil’ due to the fact that we assign or attach value and make emotional investments in other people (or things, ideas, or abstractions). When we lose someone important in our personal lives, we react at first. We are hurt, saddened, devastated. But we cannot remain in this state of being in perpetuity; we need to find ways…

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Nadine on Writing: Author Interview: Carrie Lange

Nadine on Writing: Author Interview: Carrie Lange.

Here’s an excerpt from my recent blog interview. To read the entire interview, please click on the link above. Nadine is a wonderfully talented writer, with a gorgeous blog. Check it out, you won’t be disappointed. 😉

Author Interview: Carrie Lange

 Today I have an amazing guest author: Carrie Lange. Carrie’s novel is a heart-wrenching tale of overcoming grief and guilt–a story I will never forget.

She also runs the Little Blog of Letting Go, a site dedicated to suicide prevention, support for depression and grief, and encouragement for everyone.

 Would you mind telling us why and how you wrote the novel? I imagine it must have been a very difficult emotional experience for you. What message do you have for readers?
The book was originally written for my teenage daughter, who began struggling with depression and thoughts of suicide the past few years. In her struggle to understand her own depression, she kept asking me about Dan’s death. Although very young when he died, she loved him very much and had a difficult time understanding his sudden loss. As she grew older, and began to realize what happened, her questions became more pointed. Letting Go first began as my way of explaining to her an unexplainable act.
One of the main characters, and the one readers seem to love the most, Tar, was not a figment of my imagination. My daughter told me about talking to Dan’s friend. She told me Dan wasn’t up in heaven with God, but with his friend, Tar, who was dead too. That night – after watching Galaxy Quest about five times in a row – I had a dream about Tar, which probably explains why he looked like Alan Rickman to me!
 My goal with Letting Go is to both prevent suicide and help survivors understand why people become suicidal. I also want to help all people gain a better understanding of the grieving process….

This World Is Not Done With You (Part 2)

This is part 2 of an earlier post I re-blogged. Wonderful peek inside the world of a teenager struggling with depression.

Today Might be the Day

To view part one of This World Is Not Done With You, click here.

In my last post I began to discuss the things that one does not think about when they are thinking about suicide. The first thing is that you have no idea how amazing your life will be. The second is that you don’t realize how important you are to people. And the third is that you don’t understand the pain a family feels when suicide is brought in. I cut off the post there because suicide is so complex and intricate. It is hard for me to understand what I was going through, let alone anyone else. However, I have learned a lot. Like I said in the last post, I can’t stop anyone from feeling suicidal.I can’t change minds. All I can do is offer insight from my own experiences and hope that I…

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6 Happiness Movements Everyone Should Know About

Please read and join the movements ~ Be happy, people!

The Happsters

I’ve started noticing more and more happiness movements popping up recently, so I decided to compile a few of my favorites to share with you! Here are 6 happiness movements everyone should know about:

1. 365 Grateful Project – A documentary about the extraordinary power of gratitude has turned into a global movement. In an effort to fight depression, Hailey decided to take one Polaroid photo a day of something she felt grateful for. Hailey posted her project on flickr and gradually others began to do their own versions of the 365 Grateful project.

Learn more about the 365 Grateful Project here: http://365grateful.com/

2. You Are Beautiful – Matthew Hoffman started the You Are Beautiful project by creating stickers that say “you are beautiful” on them. The movement has grown in the past decade from just 100 stickers to a half million stickers posted around the globe. He sends anyone…

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